Why You Should Never Take a Day Off from Dating (Even If You’re Not Swiping Tonight)

If you're serious about finding your forever person—your life partner, your future spouse, your “this is my person”—then it’s time to start treating that goal with the love and consistency it deserves.

And yes, that means not taking a day off from dating.

Before you panic or roll your eyes, let me clarify: I’m not saying you need to be out every night having cocktails with strangers or glued to dating apps 24/7. In fact, please don’t do that. That’s how you burn out.

But what I am saying is this: when you have a deeply meaningful goal—like building a strong, lifelong relationship—why would you intentionally disconnect from it one day each week?

Some advice out there (looking at you, Millionaire Matchmaker) encourages people to take a full day off from dating every week. The idea is probably rooted in avoiding burnout, which is fair. But let’s call this what it really is: a rule that doesn’t serve everyone.

Because here’s the thing: Do you take a day off from being married once you’re in a relationship? Of course not. Love isn’t something we clock in and out of. It’s something we build—intentionally, consistently, and with care.

So even if you’re not going on a date today, you can still do something that moves you closer to your goal. It can be subtle. Quiet. Personal.

You might:

• Journal about the kind of partner you want to attract.
  
  

• Reflect on a recent date and what it taught you.
  
  

• Visualize the kind of relationship you're building.
  
  

• Write a gratitude list about the love you do have in your life.
  
  

• Read something that expands your emotional or relationship intelligence.
  
  

• Update your profile with more honesty and heart.
  
  

Dating with intention is powerful. It tells the universe, "I'm ready and I'm serious.” It reminds you that love is something worth showing up for—even in the small ways.

So no, you don’t need to go on a date every day. But don’t take a day off from yourself and your desire for love. Keep the heart open. Keep showing up. Even the quietest steps count.

You've got this.